Not Gonna Shut Up
Sometimes I like quarreling with people. Yes, I am absolutely sober and sane. That rush of adrenaline is thrilling. You see the other party retorting with logic and bombastic vocabulary, gratifying. Best of all, you gain enlightenment at the end of the day, be it a "defeated" or victorious" dispute. If you were defeated, you realise your mistakes, learn new methods to argue your way, and how to handle heavy bombardments. If you were victorious, you could have infused some sense into the other party, and immerse in that self-imagined glory.
However, there are often exceptions. I term these failed arguments. A failed argument is meeting with someone who hurls vulgarities non-stop, or someone who turns a deaf ear, rendering it futile to speak further. There is a similarity between the two cases. In both, the other party makes little or no direct criticism at your points, and repeat the same irrelevant stuff over and over. For the first case, the person gets heated up, targeting you first. The usual B word, F word, S word spill out. These are the appetizers. Then the main course, the usual scolding words made into a sentence. Sometimes, names of sexual organs come into play. For the final dessert, parents get dragged in, and the family gets insulted. You can continue arguing, but the other party is can be so dense, he or she might not understand what you mean, even if what you rebutted is harsh and straight on target. They might catch some points, like "What a kid", then they will use that against you, saying you are a kid instead, even though at the end of the day, it is apparent who is the real kid. Second case, same few words repeating. Like "don't sohai", "diam la". This group of people heck what you spurt. After repeating several times without variations, they will disappear, not hardcore relentless type.
They think they are the matured party in the quarrel, yet their words heavily lack content and logic. They can continue till you give up, or disappear, thinking they have won, but actually no. Some happen to have friends to boost their ego and imposing manner. They all fire one after another, and what may have been so apt and white can be turned black by them. Majority wins, but not literally. You have failed to wake the other party up to his or her senses, or, if you were wrong, you failed to realize what is it. In the end, leave with frustration and burning anger.
Engaging in quality quarrels can be good. If the opponent is a worthy one, why not accept the challenge. The experience is awesome and legend...wait for it...ary, legendary! If the opponent is a bird-brained one, then forget it, because all you get in return is only more fury. Last note, I think that no matter what, I will not and should not drag the other party's family into it. Even if he may go overboard and speak of death and etcetera, if I target his family as well, I am lowering myself to his uncivilised class, unless, the parents are also worth criticizing, but you don't know.
However, there are often exceptions. I term these failed arguments. A failed argument is meeting with someone who hurls vulgarities non-stop, or someone who turns a deaf ear, rendering it futile to speak further. There is a similarity between the two cases. In both, the other party makes little or no direct criticism at your points, and repeat the same irrelevant stuff over and over. For the first case, the person gets heated up, targeting you first. The usual B word, F word, S word spill out. These are the appetizers. Then the main course, the usual scolding words made into a sentence. Sometimes, names of sexual organs come into play. For the final dessert, parents get dragged in, and the family gets insulted. You can continue arguing, but the other party is can be so dense, he or she might not understand what you mean, even if what you rebutted is harsh and straight on target. They might catch some points, like "What a kid", then they will use that against you, saying you are a kid instead, even though at the end of the day, it is apparent who is the real kid. Second case, same few words repeating. Like "don't sohai", "diam la". This group of people heck what you spurt. After repeating several times without variations, they will disappear, not hardcore relentless type.
They think they are the matured party in the quarrel, yet their words heavily lack content and logic. They can continue till you give up, or disappear, thinking they have won, but actually no. Some happen to have friends to boost their ego and imposing manner. They all fire one after another, and what may have been so apt and white can be turned black by them. Majority wins, but not literally. You have failed to wake the other party up to his or her senses, or, if you were wrong, you failed to realize what is it. In the end, leave with frustration and burning anger.
Engaging in quality quarrels can be good. If the opponent is a worthy one, why not accept the challenge. The experience is awesome and legend...wait for it...ary, legendary! If the opponent is a bird-brained one, then forget it, because all you get in return is only more fury. Last note, I think that no matter what, I will not and should not drag the other party's family into it. Even if he may go overboard and speak of death and etcetera, if I target his family as well, I am lowering myself to his uncivilised class, unless, the parents are also worth criticizing, but you don't know.
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